Mindset Monday: It’s not just one … it’s three things

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately … and after over two years of working to build my business I’ve come to a couple of conclusions about coaching and coaches.  There are basically three interconnected skill sets that effective coaches possess:  mindset, processes, and systems.


No matter the type of coaching you’re doing, mindset is the key that unlocks success and fulfillment.  Whether you’re a business, health and wellness, fitness, executive, direct sales, productivity, performance, career, or life coach, your clients must be working on mindset — reflecting on how they think and identify those thought patterns and mistaken beliefs so they can overcome them and reach their potential.  The bottom line … mindset matters … in fact, more than any other factor, how we think impacts how we live our lives, run our businesses, and interact with others.  Proverbs 4:23 says, “ Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts.”


Another area that coaches focus on is helping their clients identify the processes and sub-processes that enable them to run their businesses effectively.  For instance, it’s imperative that we clarify the sequence of events involved in the onboarding process —analyzing what needs to happen from the time we sign a client up through the first meeting with that client.  While it seems simple — just sign ‘em up and call ‘em on the phone — we have to spend considerable time to define and delineate all aspects of the process for it to be truly effective for the client.


Last, coaches help their clients develop systems that put feet to their processes.  Once the processes have been identified and thoroughly analyzed, it’s time to set up the systems that enable those processes to be executed.  In order for our onboarding process to work efficiently, our systems must be working — the sign-up form has to populate the correct list and send the client to the correct website where they can pay, which triggers a message to me so that I know the client has paid and I can contact them.  The systems involves websites, auto responders, integrated forms, shopping carts, and more.  Those are the feet – the backside that makes it all work.

Not all coaches are created equal — and we shouldn’t be.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses — Where are you strongest and weakest?  Mindset, processes, systems?  What do you like doing best?

Answering these questions can help you zero in on where you need to grow and where you can really shine right now.

As always, let me know how I can help you:  Let’s chat!

Have a great week.

Coaching YOU to success!!

Mindset Monday: Being Good … At The Right Time

I don’t know about you, but I really enjoy watching the Voice.  Many people I talk to are mesmerized by the talent of the singers … for me it all about peeking in on the coaching that goes on.  I love hearing the coaches share their experience, knowledge, and wisdom with their team members.

Each coach brings in a guest coach to provide the singers with different perspectives and insights.  Céline Dion was invited by Gwen Stefani to work with her team.

SIDE NOTE:  Last year Nick was driving in East Henderson and looked over at the Porsche next to him and Céline was driving … gotta love who you run into in Vegas!

When one of the Gwen’s team members finished his song, Céline encouraged him to open up and sign more freely — this is what she said:

Céline wasn’t talking about behavior … she was talking about performance.

So what type of performing do you and I do?  Our jobs, our relationships, our hobbies … can you think of anything else?

We don’t have to be good (or great) all the time — that creates so much pressure that sometimes it’s hard to breath.  So when we take the pressure off trying to be perfect and just let ourselves make mistakes … that’s when we grow … and MOST IMPORTANTLY that’s when we grow into who we were created to be!

This is one of the themes in my Kick Perfectionism to the Curb audio series — AND — it’s one of the struggles that so many of us deal with day in and day out.

How about you?  Are you good at choosing when it’s time to be good — when it’s time to expect a perfect performance?

I’d love to hear from you.  Remember, you can always sign up for a free 15-minute Power Chat on My Online Calendar.

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Have a great week AND treat yourself with grace!

Mindset Monday: Becoming … Fly like you were created to

I was born in Carmel, CA and as a 2nd and 3rd grader we lived in Pacific Grove, CA.  I think P.G. (as we locals call it) is most famous for the ice plant that blooms along the bay.  It’s just one of the many reasons I love the Peninsula.

P.G. is also famous for the yearly migration of the Monarch butterflies.  I remember it as the blooming of the butterfly trees.  But what did those butterflies have to go through to fulfill who God created them to be?

Most of us know … they start out as caterpillars, spun a cocoon, and then emerged as butterflies.  Of all the interesting facts about this metamorphosis from caterpillar to butterfly, the most amazing to me is that before spinning the cocoon, the caterpillar sheds its skin five times … holy moly … the work, the discomfort, and most importantly, the determination that it takes to go through that process — what a great example of our metamorphosis.

Once the cocoon is complete, the transformation process begins – inside, where no one can see what’s happening.  Sound familiar?  Do you still have those days when you feel like a caterpillar squiggling along trying to figure out how to become that beautiful butterfly?

It’s important to note that even after the butterfly is fully formed in the chrysalis, it takes hours for it to be ready to fly — there’s still more developing.  The butterfly fights its way out and then waits while its wings dry.  Do you get frustrated because you expect yourself to be fully developed and ready to soar — but you’ve still got growing to do?

Did you know that if we help that butterfly by opening the chrysalis for it that it won’t develop as it should? We will actually stunt its growth.  We have to let it fight to the end.

Several years ago a friend of mine told me about her 4-year old nephew who was trying to put a puzzle together.  He got overwhelmed and said in his whiney little boy voice, “It’s too hard.”

It’s true — the metamorphosis of life is hard.  Here’s the good news — Jesus said, “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light” Matthew 11:28-30.

I’ve always wondered about the yoke and burden that Jesus talked about — Why is it so light and easy life feels like I’m struggling out of my skin … five times … building a cocoon … and then fighting my way out of it, too?  I get to the point when I say in my whiney little girl voice, “It’s too hard!”

Then I remember what Jesus’ yoke and burden is — how we are commanded to live our lives — “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.  Love your neighbor as yourself” Mark 12: 30-31.

That’s right – LOVE … first God and then others.  That doesn’t sound so hard … but sometimes I’m too self-centered to love God’s way.  That’s where Romans 12:2 comes in — Paul uses the word we translate to metamorphosis when he instructed us to renew our minds.

I love the Message version, “Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking.  Instead, fix your attention on God.  You’ll be changed from the inside out.  Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it.  Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.”

Ready to mature into that beautiful butterfly?

The mindset is two-fold:

  1. Love God and others
  2. Let God renew your mind

It won’t always be easy … but it will always result in you becoming all you were created to be.

Leave me a comment and let me know how your metamorphosis is going!

NOTE: All the pictures and more info can be found at http://www.monarch-butterfly.com/



Mindset Monday: 7 Things You Might Not Know About Me

It’s always fun to look back on our life experiences and accomplishments that bring smiles to our faces and remind us of where we’ve been and what we’ve done.

Here are a few of mine that might surprise you:

#1 — As a kid I spent many summers with family in Pacific Grove, CA. My cousin and I talked the owner of the glass bottom boats into letting us work in exchange for free rides.

#2 — In 9th grade I was voted as “Most Witty.”  That quick wittedness has brought a lot of fun and a few “oopsies.”

#3 — In high school I was a Girl Scout – a member of the Mariner Scout Ship (MSS) Morning Star. All year long we raised money and then in June we used it for sailing cruise. 20-25 of us, with 15-20 guitars, rented a 65′ yawl (the Desiree) and sailed around Catalina and the Channel Islands in Southern California for 5 days.

#4 — My guitar playing and song leading days also included a summer as a camp counselor at White’s Landing Girl Scout camp and over 5 years in the same role for Athletes-in-ActionFCA and Young Life.

#5 — One summer I worked in the Main Street Market House at Disneyland. Did you know that the gold on the merry-go-round horses is real? Or that there are fans in the Candy Palace walls that send the sweet fragrance of cooking candy out onto Main Street?

#6 — I could sit for hours playing video games — specifically hidden object, time management, and strategy games that I find on Big Fish Games! I’ve really got to watch myself and make sure I’m playing for relaxation rather than avoiding work or boredom.

#7 — After my husband received his new heart in 2004, I couldn’t keep up with him when we rode our regular bikes, so we bought a tandem. We rode in several Midwest Tandem rallies with up to 500 other cyclists.

So why share this on Mindset Monday.  Well, as I said at the beginning, I believe we need to look back on our lives so that we’re reminded of where we’ve come from, what we’ve done, how we’ve succeeded … and especially, how much we’ve grown.

A few years ago, I started seeing how useful this was in my spiritual walk.  So when I came across a Scripture passage that pointed to something I’d learned or a place where I’d grown I would put a little mark in my Bible signifying my growth.  Now I can look through my Bible and see those growth markers — this is especially powerful on those days when I’m feeling low or unsuccessful.

So join the fun!  First, share 7 things that we might not know about you.  And second, try adding notes in your Bible so you have growth markers to look back on.

Leave a comment below and share!!

Cow and Rhino — Why it’s best to be both

As a college volleyball coach, I taught my players how to push through the hard times at practice and in matches so they could excel as athletes, teammates, and people.  I used a variety of metaphors and one that comes to mind was hanging on the door of the track coach who I worked with in Texas: “Cow or Rhino?”

This excellent word picture reminds us to be aggressive rather than passive in our competitive endeavors … and there’s more!

In my current role as a personal and business development coach, my objectives are focused on helping my clients igniting and reigniting the skills and talents that will help them meet their goals and find the success they seek.

I recently thought back to the cow vs. rhino metaphor and did some research to see if I could use it to motivate my clients to bigger and better things.  Here are some fun and interesting facts about these two animals.

COWS – from the World Animal Foundation Adopt a Cow site

Cows are social ~ they can recognize more than 100 individuals ~ will closely bond to some herd members, while carefully avoiding others ~ maintain lifelong relationships with their peers ~ they “moo” to each other to stay connected, even when they can’t see each other ~ they will communicate through different body positions and facial expressions when they can see each other.

Cattle will learn from each others’ mistakes ~ if one is shocked by an electric fence, others will become alarmed and avoid the source ~ if a herd is confined by an electric fence, only 30% will ever be shocked

Cattle have almost panoramic vision, which allows them to watch for predators or humans. They can see in color, except for red.

They have an amazing sense of smell and can detect scents more than six miles away.

My favorite characteristic:  Cattle enjoy swimming and running in the moonlight; when the moon is full they will remain active for longer periods between their two sleep sessions.

At the other end of the spectrum …

RHINOS – from the Wild Ones and Wikipedia

Rhinos are solitary in nature, usually living alone or in small groups of mother and offspring. They have small, widely positioned eyes that result in very poor eyesight. They have good hearing and sense of smell.

Their two horns are used for defense and intimidation ~ especially by males who fight over territory.  In fact, their aggressive dispositions discourages predators ~ nearsightedness seems to urge them to charge first and investigate later.

My least favorite characteristic:  Rhinos mark their territories with dung piles that can be three feet high!  Yuck!!

Thus the title … Cow and Rhino.  Cows are relationship-oriented, while rhinos are task-oriented.  So when it comes to working with people, being a cow is a must.  In contrast, when it’s time to focus on getting things done, like emails and social media posts, then it’s time to play the rhino card.

IMPORTANT NOTE:  We’re never really either-or.  It’s best to be intentional and choose the most appropriate approach for different situations.

Ready to become the best cow and rhino you can be?

Ready to take God up on His promise to help you?

“The one who called you is completely dependable. If he said it, he’ll do it!” (1 Thess 5:24 MSG).

He’s called you and equipped you to fulfill that calling — sometimes you’ll be a cow, sometimes a rhino, and sometimes in between.

What is your plan to answer the call on your life?

I’d love to hear … and if you choose … help you work it out.

Leave a comment below or go HERE to set up a Power Chat with me.  After our 15 minutes together you’ll have a set of your next best steps to take to fulfill your calling.




Mindset Monday: Throwing pots and picking out the rocks

There are so many word pictures of our relationship with our Lord — the vine and the branches and the Potter and the clay are the ones I think of most often.  In fact, the other day during I was thinking about the Potter and the clay.

I had a good friend in college who was an art major and I spent some time watching her throw pots – I never quite figured out why they call it that <smile>.  The clay that she used had been refined and purified so that there weren’t any small, medium, or large rocks or pebbles to get in the way of the molding and firing process.

I think God has a different experience with us.  As He gently holds and forms our clayness (a word I made up to describe us sitting in a lump on the wheel), God has to stop every time he comes across a small pebble … a large rock … or anything in between.

Unlike the clay that my friend worked with, God is working with our unrefined and unpurified clayness.  When He has to remove a pebble, we feel the pain — emotional, physical, spiritual — but because His hands never leave us we can lean into his molding.

Here are the words from the Potter’s Hand, by Darlene Zschech.

Beautiful Lord, wonderful Savior, I know for sure all of my days are held in Your hands, crafted into Your perfect plan.

You gently call me, into Your presence guiding me by, Your Holy Spirit teach me, dear Lord, to live all of my life through Your eyes.

I’m captured by Your Holy calling, set me apart, I know You’re drawing me to Yourself, lead me Lord I pray.

Take me, mold me, use me, fill me I give my life to the Potter’s hands.  Hold me, guide me, lead me, walk beside me, I give my life to the Potter’s hand.

Click HERE to hear this song.

Sometimes it’s hard to trust … hard to turn our lives over to God and surrender to His gentle hands — especially if we’re afraid of the growing pains.

So let’s join together in holding our hands out and letting God shape us.  I don’t believe this process is being done to us.  God works in concert with us.

I love this picture and how it reflects how God works with me to make my life pleasing to Him as I become all He created me to be.

Trust Him … as Chris Tomlin sings, “He’s a good, good Father … it’s who He is …”  Step out and trust in new ways and you will get to know the Lord, our God, in ways you could never imagine.

Click HERE to listen and sing along.

As always, I’d love to hear from you.  Leave a comment below and let’s chat.